We need to drop these images inside us and we will find endless possibilities! If you are unmarried, drop your fantasies so that you can choose your life partner and not a dream partner. When you select a person, just remind yourself that you are going to be spending your entire life with him, not just a few months. Dont think of it as just a fling. It is a life-long matter. As of now, any black jeans or blue T-shirt will fall within your fantasy world and you will be attracted to it. But understand that the black or blue will fade away in just six months time! If you are already married, drop your fantasies; only then can you start a real relationship with anybody.

If you enter with a chisel and hammer, a real relationship cannot happen. What happens in chiseling is, you start chiseling and when you think that you have finished chiseling, your imagination has changed; it has become something different and so you have to do more chiseling to match the slightly changed imagination! This becomes a never-ending cycle. A relationship can never happen as long as you have fantasies. Even if you stay for twenty-four hours in the same house, you dont look into the other's eyes, because you live with fantasy and not reality. You dont actually live with the real person. You see all that the other person does through your imagination and conclude that your life is a punishment to you from God.

If you are unmarried, drop your fantasies and your blood will cool down; you will not be under hormonal torture. If you are a widower, drop your imagination and you will not suffer the pain of loneliness. Try your best not to allow children to watch the duets (a romantic song sequence featuring the hero and heroine) on television. If they simply enjoy the music and dance along with it, it's alright; but what they do is, they internalize all that they see - the duets, the emotions and what not. This is where the problem starts. Everything will get stored in the muladhara chakra, the sex chakra. Then a mere suggestion is enough and the muladhara will be ready. The sheer load of expectation leads to disturbances in the muladhara chakra.

This is the way this chakra is locked. When you try to fulfill your fantasy through another person or by watching the television, when you try to impose or project your expectation and imagination on another person, this chakra is locked. It has nothing to do with the outer conditions of life. It has nothing to do with so-called celibacy. It is to do with your inner fragmented self. What is celibacy? Celibacy is nothing but not craving for the suppressed half that is inside you, that's all. If you are a male, you need to experience such fulfillment unto yourself that you no longer miss the suppressed half or female inside you. And if you are a female, you are so enough unto yourself that you dont look outside to experience this fulfillment.

Once you have achieved this state, you can live with or without the female in the outside world. If this is not achieved, even if you get married, you will continue to be under the torture of your hormones. Your hormonal torture is nothing but a yearning for the fulfillment that you are actually supposed to get from within, not without. When you achieve this fulfillment, whether you are married or not, there will be peace in your mind. It is then that you can be celibate even in married life! This is true celibacy. Instead of this, people go out of their way to become celibates and become more suppressed and neurotic. Do you all follow what I am trying to say? Comment: But Swamiji, we dont even realize that we are carrying an image inside Yes.

Because we have never looked in. We go everywhere but inwards. Up to 80% of our energy is locked in this chakra! This chakra doesnt even need to be energized.