Another person will say, I don't have children, that's my worry! One person's dream is another person's worry! You will not find any logic in it at all. What is meant by worry? Worry arises whenever things are not happening as you want them to happen. It is the discrepancy between your expectations and reality. For example, you feel your son should stay at home with you, whereas he feels he should be by himself - away from you. You want to finish your project by a certain time. But things are happening too slowly and it seems an impossible task. These are all causes for worry. What you want and expect does not match what others want and expect. How does Worry take root? Worry takes root from your own thoughts or words.

There are two things that continuously happen in you. The first is dialogue, and the second is monologue – what I call inner chatter. You either talk to people outside you or you continuously chatter within you. In any case, words and thoughts are the building blocks that make up worry. When you speak to others, what you say is strictly governed by societal rules. You automatically don't use prohibited or politically incorrect words. But what you say inside yourself, no one except you knows. The thoughts that you generate inside constitute your real worries. It is like this: there is a continuous current of chatter happening in you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. From this current a few spikes rise. These spikes are what you feel and express as worries.

Worries are nothing but spikes in the current of thoughts constantly moving within you. These thoughts are mostly negative. That's the problem. If I ask you to write your life story in a few pages, you will write a few incidents highlighting how and when you struggled. You will not highlight the many joyful incidents that happened in between. The mind is trained to record only negative things. Even when something joyful happens, you remember only the moment when it ended, never the moments when you felt joy. Because even when you are at the peak of joy, you are always worrying about when the joy will end! The mind is trained from a very young age to think that life moves from one worry to the other, or from one pain to another, never from one joy to another.

In a classroom, the teacher found that one boy was sitting with a very sad face. She asked him, What happened? Why do you look so worried? The boy said, It's my parents. My dad works all day to provide good clothes and an excellent education for me. He buys me anything I want. My mother cooks the best food for me and takes care of me from morning until I go to bed. The teacher asked, Then what is your problem? Why are you worried? The boy replied, I am afraid they might run away. The mind has a clear identity only with pain, never with joy! That is why recalling even joyful moments becomes painful.